Recommended Reads
for Dating and Relationships
Curious about dating and ready to make healthier relationship choices?
This bibliography is your perfect starting point!
These game-changing books have enriched my coaching practice and helped clients achieve amazing results. Explore these reads and transform your dating journey—happy reading!
Dating & Relationship Books

Susan M. Campbell, Ph.D.
Campbell promotes a radical approach to dating through complete honesty. She advises singles to be upfront about their desires and true to themselves from the beginning. This honest approach, which I teach, helps individuals enjoy dating more by being authentic, leading to more fulfilling relationships and genuine love”

Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D.
Psychotherapist Charlotte Kasl blends spiritual wisdom from various traditions to help individuals find love without losing themselves. Practical and playful, this book guides you to approach dating with curiosity, fascination, and a light heart.

Brian Helstrom
My friend Brian wrote this book during the pandemic. It’s a practical guide for mature adults new to online dating, covering dating readiness, online partner searches, and time-saving tips for those who may not have yet dated in the Internet era.

Caroline Tiger
This is a fun and practical survival guide for couples navigating long-distance love. I used this book when I first started dating my partner who lived 5 hours away. With tips on negotiating visit schedules, enjoying virtual intimacy, and packed with quizzes, checklists, and expert advice, this book ensures your relationship can go the distance.

Gary Chapman
Learn your language of love: Quality Time, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Touch, and Gifts. Mastering these will deepen your connections and ensure you receive more love in return.

Amir Levine, M.D. & Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.
Whether you’re anxious and doubt a woman can truly love you, or afraid she’ll leave if you let her in, this book helps you understand the impact of your behavior. It guides you to choose a partner who is compatible with your attachment style.

Stan Tatkin
This book provides a scientific look at the neurobiology of dating, exploring why certain partners are compatible or incompatible. While attraction is important, it’s not the ultimate destiny. It helps you figure out what kind of woman is the right fit for you.

Richard & Kristine Carlson
Form, maintain, and repair meaningful romantic relationships with this simple, stress-free approach to love. 100 brief essays on reducing stress, avoiding overreactions, appreciating your partner, and moving past old angers. I keep this one in my bathroom.

Alison Armstrong
Apply Alison’s unique insights into how men and women think, speak, listen, and collaborate differently. Heal past hurts, honor each other’s strengths, and use the %22Let’s Make a Deal%22 method for mutual satisfaction in relationships, family, or business.
Sexuality

Ali Adler
This is a candid and humorous guide to understanding women and improving sexual relationships. With frank advice and insights, Adler helps men navigate the complexities of female desire and intimacy, aiming to create more satisfying and respectful encounters.

Mantak Chia & Douglas Abrams
Discover the sexual secrets to enhance pleasure and performance, especially in midlife. These methods ensure both you and your partner experience greater satisfaction and fulfillment without the little blue pill.

Sheri Winston
I met Sheri when she was writing this book and assisted at her workshops. She helps women and those who love them achieve new levels of sexual satisfaction, including female ejaculation and becoming multi-orgasmic. There’s a special chapter for men to enhance their partner’s pleasure.

Margot Anand
This is one of my very first books on sacred sexuality, it brings the sacred lovemaking techniques of the East to Western readers with guided practices. It’s ideal for anyone wanting to bring physical pleasure with intense emotional and spiritual joy.

Wendy Maltz
My partner bought me this book when we first started long-distance dating. These poems inspires and celebrates healthy sexual intimacy, reveling in one of life’s greatest mysteries through rich, steamy poetry.
Masculine & Feminine

John & Julie Gottman
Based on 40 years of scientific study, this book offers science-based answers to what women really want, explaining attractive qualities and helping men develop those skills to be more desirable.

John Gray, Ph.D.
John Gray explores the fundamental differences between men and women in relationships. It offers insights and practical advice on understanding, communicating, and connecting with your partner by recognizing and respecting these differences, for more fulfilling relationships.

Alison A. Armstrong
I love how Alison, with her humorous delivery, describes how a man’s sense of self evolves over his lifetime. She explains what men can provide at each stage, the reality of mid-life crises, readiness for relationships and family, and the importance of adventure at any age.

Alison A. Armstrong
After a decade of helping women understand men, Alison Armstrong unravels the complexities of women. Discover why women multitask, which conversational details matter, the source of jealousy and competitive behavior, and how to repair hurt feelings and avoid the Rage Monster.

Dr. Louann Brizendine
Learn how the female brain determines women’s thinking, communication, and relationships. Women are more verbal, remember details better, and form deeper bonds. This book offers essential insights for women to understand themselves and for men to better understand women.

David Deida
This timeless classic offers guidance for men to grow spiritually while navigating the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire. Deida’s insights help men balance strength and sensitivity, moving beyond outdated ideals, and encouraging them to embrace their full potential.

GS Youngblood
This book is for men in relationships who want to embody more masculine energy. By following three principles, men can inspire trust, lust, and devotion, providing leadership and safety for strong, capable women with a modern approach to being a man based on clarity and purpose.

Dr. Louann Brizendine
Explore the fundamental differences between male and female brains. Men are problem-solvers, thrive on competition, are driven by sexual pursuit. This book overturns stereotypes and is essential for understanding male behavior.
Science of Dating & Relationships

Helen Fisher
This book explains the neurobiology behind love and its evolution. It reveals that the high feeling of being %22in love%22 activates the same brain centers as cocaine, suggesting love’s chemistry helps with monogamy. Fascinating research will deepen your understanding of why we love.

Jillian Straus
Generation X remains single longer than any previous generations. Factors like money, unrealistic expectations, gender equality, Hollywood fantasies, and abundant opportunities, this book offers insights for those born between 1965-1976.

Esther Perel
This book explores maintaining desire in long-term relationships, addressing the tension between security and surprise. Known for her TED talk, she offers insights and strategies to reignite passion and manage waning sexual desire in committed partnerships.

Dr. Sue Johnson
Based on cutting-edge research of why and how we love, this book covers relationship stages, the intelligence of emotions, and the benefits of secure love, offering a new perspective on the logic and survival value of mating for life.

Barry Schwartz
Just like internet dating, too many choices can lead to anxiety and dissatisfaction. The overwhelming number of options creates choice overload, making it harder to decide. This book offers strategies to simplify decision-making and find greater satisfaction in our choices.

Jonah Lehrer
Want to understand how to choose a long-term partner that’s meant to last? Jonah Lehrer explores the science and psychology behind love, examining how it shapes our brains, influences behavior, and affects well-being.

Eli J. Finkel
Uncover the key to a successful marriage with researched best practices, emphasizing mutual support, shared goals, and personal growth, while confronting the pressures and high expectations of modern relationships.
Personal Development

Louise Hay & David Kessler
This is a healing balm for loss from broken relationships, divorce, and death. It helps develop self-compassion through affirmations and grief work, inspiring a new way of thinking that brings love and joy back into your life.

Robert A. Glover
This book helps men stop prioritizing others’ needs over their own happiness. It offers advice on breaking people-pleasing habits, setting boundaries, and embracing one’s true self. In fact, you’ll attract a better partner when you do.

Sheenah Hankin
If you struggle with feeling unworthy of lasting love, stay in unhealthy relationships, or accept unacceptable behavior, this book focuses on boosting self-esteem and overcoming self-doubt.

Dale Carnegie
Whether in dating or sales, it’s all about getting people to like you. This book’s timeless advice on communication, empathy, and relationship-building helps you gain confidence and understand what makes people tick.

Susan Jeffers Ph.D.
With warmth, insight, and humor, this essential guide helps you connect with your inner power, raise self-esteem, become more assertive, tap into your inner strength, create meaning, and experience more joy.

Daniel Clark
The Most Complete Practical Guide to Boost Your EQ for Social Skills, Business and Relationship and Discover Why It Can Matter More than IQ.
This practical guide helps you recognize, manage, and use your emotions to reach your goals. It offers a 4-week journey with exercises for self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management, plus a test to measure your EQ.

Marshall B. Rosenberg Ph.D.
The book teaches compassionate, empathetic, and collaborative communication. It offers practical techniques for honest expression, empathetic listening, and peaceful conflict resolution, essential for all your relationships.

Don Miguel Ruiz
A code of conduct to overcome self-limiting beliefs: be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, and always do your best. These principles foster trust, clear communication, and personal power that benefits all your relationships.”

John Bradshaw
Whether in dating or sales, it’s all about getting people to like you. This book’s timeless advice on communication, empathy, and relationship-building helps you gain confidence and understand what makes people tick.
Mindfulness

Dan Millman
I love how this book offers practical advice for finding everyday peace and fulfillment. A gentle guide to turn intentions into actions, balance the body, liberate the mind, accept emotions, and open the heart.

Shirzad Chamin
I use this in my practice to discover how much your mind serves you versus sabotages you. This book offers mindfulness tools to identify and conquer the ten mental Saboteurs and develop mental strengths for better performance and fulfillment.

Jon Kabat-Zinn
This classic guide combines medical research and spiritual insights to introduce you to mindfulness meditation, guiding you to find peace and reduce stress. I took Jon Kabat-Zinn’s 10-week course when I was going through a challenging time, and it was incredibly helpful.

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